EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Do I Listen?

Proverbs 10:8

⁸ The wise in heart accept commands,
    but a chattering fool comes to ruin.

Salin sa Magandang Balita Biblia: 

Kawikaan 10:8

Magandang payo’y tinatanggap ng pusong may unawa, ngunit kapahamakan ang wakas ng mangmang na masalita.

Personal Application:

According to the book I read: Human Behavior in Business Organization written by Ione B. Mison and Lillosa P. Bernabe - new brain research suggests that emotions, not IQ may be the true measure of human intelligence.

The ability to control self emotion is one of the measurements of having
higher emotional intelligence. As a result, a person with high emotional intelligence is patient, have distinctive self control, higher understanding, better judgment and more positive trait.

Frankness = low emotional intelligence?

Or maybe depends on the definition on what is being “frank” is all about. If the frankness is defined as immediate declaration of what ever is in the mind regardless of time and situation…I can say, it was the frankness I had. I consider that now as equivalent to low emotional intelligence. It is something I have to change. I have to control my emotions.

This phrase came into my mind, “Anything you say can be used against you.” A police officer would say after reading the rights when someone is apprehended. I think I should remember this very often.

Sometimes, I would mis-interpret an advice and would end up talking before understanding the advice given to me especially if it is to correct my behavior, against my principle, against to what I think is right or not what I want.

I would have spoken more words to explain myself and go against what is being told before the person talking to me is finished.

I easily get angry and talk rather than listen…as a result I would end up hurting other people than having a healthy conversation and this is not what the Lord expects HIS children to be...this is not what HE expect from me.

God is clearly teaching me to have a higher emotional intelligence or EQ. I believe that the children of God have very high EQ and has great amount of self discipline, self control, patience and understanding. If I want to have this and be a better daughter of God then I should learn to start listening first before talking.

Prayer:

Our heavenly Father, you never cease taking care of me, you know every details of my life and all the corners that must be straightened. For so many times, I have done so much talking rather than listen to You and my fellowmen. I heed your advice and would start listening and understanding first before I let my emotions carry me to wrong judgment. All the praises to You. In Jesus name I pray. Amen

Lesson Learned:

Let mind understand, heart listen and tongue be tamed.