Do we keep one of these?
With an effort to keep
silent during the “angry” moments, some tends to keep the resentment up to their
hearts and mind and remember it for a long time.
The lack of opportunity to
have the anger blurted out sometimes resulted to accumulating little angers and
complain planted in the heart like little plants…and for some who tried to be
very kind to others but forgot to be kind to themselves....they could almost have a plantation of anger in their hearts..it could be called an “Angerville”. (Taken from the idea of the word Farmville used in Facebook).
Keeping an "Angerville" is not a good idea. It might result to some damaging action that could not only affect ourselves but other people too. Too much anger could lead to lying, gossiping, back-fighting and an aim to destroy than correct. According to King Solomon,
See: www.biblegateway.com
We would not want to end up being a fool. It is best to try talking to the person we are angry with when we are already calm and have the ability to control our emotions. Explain to the person what causes the anger and give the other person some space to explain its side. We can try to have an open mind and come up with an amicable solution and most of all FORGIVE.
If possible, let our anger be diminishing like an alcohol that evaporates than setting it aside and keeping it till it grows...like an "Angerville".
Let us pray…
Our Heavenly Father. grant us enough patience and understanding so as not to let ourselves be taken away by anger by creating a scene or keeping it until we became destructive. Always give us a chance to clear our resentments and learn to accept reasoning. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.
Lesson Learned:
Anger is not a good tool to keep.
I am guilty of this... I hate my father's brother's family because they always belittle my family. Kaya civil lang kami when we see each other during family gatherings otherwise, I don't mind them.
TumugonBurahinWe can make use of Proverbs 10:19..please see my newest blog. I pray for peace in you heart. God bless! :)
BurahinI have peace in my heart naman. I have surrendered the perennial problem to the Lord. The hatred was the initial feeling.
BurahinPraise God! that is a very wonderful revelation. God Bless, Farida! :)
BurahinTotoo. Sometimes because we want to keep the peace, we keep our silence when something angers us. But bottling it up for a long time will do more harm. So even if we choose to be silent, it should only be so we can rethink and reevaluate our stand. After that, if we're still angry, confront the issue.
TumugonBurahinYs, Sis. Vera. It would either harm other people or much worst..ourselves. Because some get sick bey keeping anger or emotions. Given the right time and moment, we should clear matters immediately for our peace of mind.
BurahinEventhough how angry I am, I tried my best to keep silent pero minsan hindi talaga kaya, I blurt it out to my heart's content. hehe
TumugonBurahinBlurting it out in our hearts content some other say it like "in the line of fire". It is good when the people around us are broad enough to understand us and knew us personally. The sad part is, sometimes we hurt even the people we dearly love just because we want to blurt it out...although it is not healthy to keep anger..better have it cleared after drinking a glass of water...it might give us enough time to cool down a bit and talk sensibly. God bless, Janz!
BurahinThis is true. The longer we hold anger and grudges in our heart, the more painful it will become. Minsan kasi we are indenial. Minsan tinitiis na lang. But it is much better actually to let it out then go. Anyway, God knows everything naman.
TumugonBurahinAgree...di pa naman naibebenta ang "burong sama ng loob" or "binagoong na galit" :D..wala siguro bibili nun :D
BurahinI am really trying to release anger especially when I encounter this to my student or loved ones. Time, is needed for this.
TumugonBurahinI salute you for your patience, Mam Tet! Slowly lang in releasing tayo...at huwag gantihan sa grades :D kidding po!
BurahinTrue! I've been constantly telling myself that my heart shouldn't have room for anger. Thank for this inspiring post.
TumugonBurahinWelcome. sis!
Burahini agree. it's better to tell the person your feelings rather than keeping it growing in your heart and mind. let the other person explain his side and thru God's grace, you will be blessed with a forgiving heart.
TumugonBurahinAnd all would have a better and peaceful place. Oh, what a wonderful sight! Isn't it? :D
BurahinIt's terrible to keep anger in the heart for a long time. It's like you're imprisoned and only the love of Jesus can set us free.
TumugonBurahinBecause Jesus would teach us how to forgive and all our cares in this world would be gone.
BurahinNatatamaan palagi ako sa posts mo, Ms. Glen. When I get angry at someone I'm close to, I tell them. However, in some cases, I just keep mum. And sometimes, kahit na super tagal na nung offense, I still find myself thinking about it. Need to have forgiveness in my heart.
TumugonBurahinAy sori! Hindi sadya. Applicable naman ito for all of us even me. Yes, forgiving ourselves and people is very important. A good way to have a peace of mind.
BurahinNaalis ng may-ari ang komentong ito.
TumugonBurahinWow...that is the most difficult thing to conquer, "anger". But being unable to control the feeling will result into many unforeseen disaster, if not properly handled. Thanks for this post Sis. It reminds us to be patient and forgiving. :)
TumugonBurahinAmen! God bless!
BurahinMaybe it's best to keep silent when you're at the peak of anger. Then let it out if you have forgiven the act, in order to forget and be at peace completely.
TumugonBurahinI know that anger, when you are at the height of it, is really difficult to contain. So, better, stay your cool all the time! LOL
TumugonBurahinI totally relate with Farida's comment above. I guess I've been into that situation before. My BIL and I fought back 2010. But I guess time has changed and when I went back home last April to June, things were different. Our family was closer than before. I hope things will be better and better.
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