PARENTING: A CHANCE TO BE A GOOD SON/ DAUGHTER

One question I had in mind - What does it take to be a good daughter?

Proverbs 10: 1 

"A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son brings grief to his mother."-Proverbs of Solomon

Personal Application:

I couldn't express the happiness I felt when I went upstage because my son had a medal in school. It  was immeasurable. I felt blessed and thankful to God for giving me  good sons that gave me happiness.

Reflecting on oneself, Was I a good daughter? Wise or foolish? I started enumerating the things I have done for my parents and realized my shortcomings. Regret came into me for not giving them my best. There are some factors that lead to my shortcomings and one of which is ignorance. Yes, It was stupidity in my part for being ignorant of what my parents had expected from me. Since my grade school, I frequently hear my parents saying, "Bahala na kayo sa buhay ninyo pag nakatapos kayo ng college. Wala na kami paki-alam sa inyo at aasikasuhin na lang namin ang sarili namin." 


I WOULD BE OUT AND ON MY OWN AFTER COLLEGE! NO MORE FAMILY!... that was the thought I had in mind all along while I was battling secondary school and college years. It was a good thing that I never thought of prolonging my college years just to be able to stay with my family. My parents were so excited to see my college diploma which drives me to finish them on schedule, I want them to be proud of me. I want them to be happy... but along with it I was carefully planning my own life and was trying my best not to be alone...I was extremely afraid I could not survive loneliness. 

God really took good care of me, He answered my prayers by giving me a wonderful husband just in time that I was graduating for college. My mother suggested that I go abroad after my graduation to work and earn for the family but she was not aware of the fear I had and the plans I made in preparation for my new life after college. By the time I realized their expectation of me, It was already too late. The plans I made for my life was irrevocable and the only way I could meet their expectation would be sacrificing my own family and I did not have the heart to do it.

If only I was taught earlier...If only I had known of their expectations...If only I was not too ignorant to believe the words they say repeatedly and had been wise enough that there could be more than just those words. If I was taught to be courageous to fight alone in life for them, then just maybe I had a chance to be a good daughter.

Prayer:

Our heavenly Father, I know there are still chances that I could be a good daughter to my parents just as I would love to have good sons. It might have been too late for me to patch up those missed chances but letting them live the life they want now is a way to make them happy. I pray for their good health, Dear Lord, and let them feel your spirit that could bring them joy. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Lesson Learned:

As a daughter/son: 
Be wise and do all good things that make our parents happy. Work for excellence that could give them honor.
As a Parent: 
Tell your children of your expectations. Share them your dreams and make them a part of it. Make them feel that they would always be a part of the family as long as they live to give them courage and strength in facing the world outside your home. Let us give them a chance to be a good daughter and sons to us.